I’m stealing an idea that has been started in the Ingress community called “This is me”. I’ve included a quote here from the creator of the idea to give you an overview. This is mostly not about ingress but there will be a few bits, as I’m posting this on G+ as well.
Last updated – 01/2017
It is about reminding people to take the time to see things from different perspectives before making decisions. In this case, about gaining other peoples perspectives to aid you in the way you think about your fellow team mates, and maybe even your adversaries. I want everyone to be able to remind each other we are all just humans, sharing this big ole earth and that we probably even share some of the same problems. The idea here being to share about yourself the things that you think make you who you are, as little or as much as you think. Then share it with as many or as few as you like, public or private, just whomever you think needs to see this to understand you better. One of the things ingress has helped me with is opening up, so here’s back atcha as a thank you.
I’m not very good at starting to write these things. I’m Dan (though until I was about 14 everyone called me Daniel. I was adverse to my name being shortened, but then it started happening more and more so I gave up, and now it’s fine). I’ve been playing Ingress since April 2014 with the username t3rminallyg33ky and I’ve met some awesome people (and made some great friends) both in Dunedin and around New Zealand. I haven’t actually been playing so much lately due to lack of time, but I do intend to get back into it eventually…
As most people know (As it’s all they see of me) is I’m a geek. I spend most of my days working on IT things, and I’m into Science Fiction and Electronics too (I suppose you could call me a maker).
I’m married to Becky as of 14/01/2017 (she hates being called Rebecca). We’ve been together since July 2011 and started out as a long distance relationship. Long distance is tough! I spent a lot of money on travel (flights accommodation etc) so we could see each other reasonably often. I moved to Dunedin when she moved there for University in 2012, and lived by myself for a year while she lived in a hall. We now live together in our own house.
We’ve made the news a few times with the proposal and the wedding. Links here…..:
- Dan’s wedding proposal at comedy show is no joke
- Dunedin man gets Ed Byrne to help him propose
- Short mention at the end – http://www.sunlive.co.nz/news/100166-ed-byrne-roars-into-tauranga.html
- The Irish comedian, Twitter and the Dunedin wedding
- Tweet romance leads to altar
All of these posts have a mental health component, so here is mine. In year 10 a friend of mine committed suicide, and in the aftermath is where I learnt to put on a brave face, and put others struggles before mine. I was a rock for a majority of my friends, and even hosted the wake at my house.
I struggled with depression myself throughout high school, starting in Year 11 (age 15) and it really screwed me. I went from being top in my class to near the bottom. Partially because my brain would no longer cooperate, and partially because I stopped caring. A large component of what I went through included self harm. I still have some pretty significant scars on my left arm, even though it was a long time ago now, and they’ll probably be with me for life. They get used by others as examples to help stop others self harming on occasion, and I’m fine with that. They’re part of me now, and most days I forget they’re even there. Sometimes I notice people looking at them at the pool etc, but nobody mentions them, because, I presume, of the stigma attached. Now that I’m through the depression I’m more than happy to talk to most people in detail about it, again, especially if it helps them or someone else. I still experience anxiety from time to time.
What else shapes me? From 16 to 19 I was in quite a controlling relationship. I lost most of my friends and probably wasted a significant amount of money on her. As bad as it was, it did set events in motion which got me to where I am today, so I can’t really say if I regret it or not, because I don’t know what the different outcome would have been. I can be fairly certain that I would not be in my current (amazing) relationship though, so there’s that!
As a typical geek I used to be pretty bad in social situations, though my current job has helped me be more social, and so has Ingress and Twitter. I’m still often quite quiet in social situations but that is because I tend not to speak unless I have something valuable to contribute to a conversation. I don’t talk for the sake of talking. The outcome of this is when I do voice an opinion on something, people listen!
I tend not to take life too seriously, unless it’s really required. Especially in my work, I’m more likely to buy from a salesperson being a bit more informal than super formal. Being formal has a time and a place but I’d rather someone related to me than gave me a speech. I don’t really like being told what to do either, it’s all in the phrasing. My boss telling me “please do this” or “can you do this” is much better for me. Even though I know it’s not an optional request, it feels better than being told “do this” or “do that”. My boss also encourages discussion, so if he asks me to do something, I can generally have a discussion with him about why, if I have a differing opinion.
I like to think that I’m pretty good at supporting people, and I work very hard on helping my family and friends out. I’m apparently a pretty generous person too. I tend to donate money to friends who need it and will randomly buy things for people, especially the “someone should buy this for me” where people aren’t really serious but I do it anyway.
I finished school at the end of Year 12 and went to polytech. I didn’t actually finish my degree because I got offered a job I couldn’t refuse, but I did finish enough papers for a Diploma. Maybe one day I’ll go back and finish my Degree off (or convert it to one here in Dunedin) but it’s not really a priority. I’ve had a few jobs since I left school all in IT. Up until the end of 2012 I worked in Education IT, first in my own High school and then in another. Now I’m a sysadmin for a gold mine (I’m not going to mention which one because they have Google alerts for their name) and am definitely up there in terms of benefits, probably more than most my age. I didn’t really enjoy the Education IT. You were always seen as inferior to the teachers and it showed in how you were treated, I’m very glad to be out of the Education/MSP space and into Corporate IT. I have an awesome workplace and work space. If we need something to get our jobs done, it’s generally made available. I get to set the direction of a lot of things that happen, and try out all areas of IT. I’m mostly passionate about networking (though I’ve discovered recently that security is a close second) and my boss has done all he can to enable me to work on those things.
In April 2016 I actually took up a new job at an MSP, funny how things work out. I’m enjoying this one a lot, as it is actually run properly and I’m doing challenging work that I enjoy.
When I’m not doing IT stuff I play piano and take photos. We also watch a crazy amount of TV… oops. I write occasionally but most of the time find it hard to get inspired. I learnt Esperanto quite a while back and have forgotten most of it, and I’ve been vaguely learning Swedish on and off for years. Something more IT related is that I spend a lot of time on Twitter. If we don’t already follow each other let me know!
So this is me, and a little bit of what has made me who I am today.
My mission in life, is simple. I exist to make people smile.